This will sort of sound like an entry in a diary, but I will do my best to keep it from doing that. Thanksgiving Day is celebrated all across the United States, and so many families are brought together during this time. For some of us this is an exciting and happy time, but if you are transgender it can be miserable. Let me tell you how my Thanksgiving went yesterday.
It all started a few weeks ago, when we all received the mass text about who was bringing what. There had to be like nine people in the group, and all were asked “what were they bringing”, all except me. In the message, I was never asked, I was told to just bring plates, cups, and napkins. To top it all off, I was dead named in the message. So this should already be giving you some insight on how my relatives are.
Now for the actual Thanksgiving Day. Yesterday, there was a mixture of things happening, but what did not happen was use of the correct name and pronouns. There were a few relatives that did not use either and I thank them. The rest were composed of using wrong name, pronouns, and some did not even speak to me at all. My mother repeatedly used the wrong pronouns, and my step-dad even said “sir”. Also there were people that were using both dead name and pronouns. Now you are probably thinking that maybe they have not had time to adjust, but they have. It is going on five years since I transitioned, and most of these people are on my Facebook page. There was even a picture posted by my mother that looks like I was cropped out of. This was taken during the time that she was wanting to take pictures with everyone. To this day, there is not a picture of me and my mother since I transitioned.
The point I am trying to get across to my readers. Whether you are someone in the community or have a relative that is part of the community, try to be nice. Treat people with the same respect that you would want to be treated with. If you are a cisgendered man or woman and someone uses the wrong pronoun. How would you feel about that? You would feel disappointed and might even start to question your masculinity or femininity. The same goes for someone that is transgender, we have feelings too. So to everyone out there. Please try to respect others despite of sex, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity, race, and religion. We are all HUMAN.