If you would have asked me ten years ago, or even four and a half years ago, about would I go back to school. The answer to that would have been a definite no at the time, mainly because I felt like I was stuck where I was, and that I was nowhere good enough for a university. It was not until a year ago did I realize that was not the case, and decided to pursue a degree. In choosing a degree, I really did not have a hard time figuring out what I wanted to do. What I want to do is help people on a level that most people frown upon, that level is psychology.
After I decided my major, I started planning out my path, asking myself all kinds of questions. One of those questions was, “How far do I want to go in school”? There was much thought and consideration to this, and the end result was to go all the way. My interpretation of going all the way in school, is to go to med school and become a doctor, or in other terms, a psychiatrist. Some of you may know the difference between psychology and psychiatry, and some of you may think they are the same. Well psychiatry means that you have completed psychology and med school, where as psychology is just what it says, psychology. Being a psychiatrist means that I can help my future patients even more, not for the money, but so that I can make a difference in people’s lives. So with all of that planning, I put everything into motion, and started school.
This past fall was my first semester, and I can safely say that it was a very good one. Being that I am a thirty-four year old non-traditional student, I had many concerns about going back to school. All of that fear started to dissipate after my first few weeks of college. Then when I received my final grades, all fear went away. On my high school transcript, it may say that I graduated with a dual seal of distinction, but the grades were not all that impressive. There were A’s, B’s, And quite a few C’s, but when I received my first semester’s grades, I was blown away to see that I had all A’s. You heard that right, after being out of the classroom for sixteen years, I went in and made straight A’s. It felt amazing to see grades like that for the first time in my life.
So how does all of this relate to the title having “transgender” in it? Well, what it means is that anybody can go back to school. When we transition, sometimes it is not just our bodys that are changing, but our careers can change too. When I started my transition, I was an assistant superintendent for a construction company. Being a transgender woman in a male dominated field wasn’t easy. When I started my transition, I knew that the chances of being accepted at work were going to be very slim, but I took a chance anyway. On May of 2017, I came out to people at work, and I resigned three months later. Even though I found another construction job a month later, I still was not happy. There was still a sense that I did not belong, so in 2019 I decided to start over, and go back to school.
The bottom line of this is, you can do anything you want, it is your life. Despite what people or society think, you can change your life. So when you are starting your transition, give some thought to what you really want to do with your life. Decide for yourself, what direction you want to take. If you are already an auto mechanic, and do not want to do anything else, go to school and get a degree in business, and open your own shop. It does not matter whether we are gay, lesbian, transgender, gender neutral, white, black, asian, hispanic, catholic,wiccan, buddhist, hindu, or any other personal quality that make you who you are. We are all in this world together, and only together can we offer support, and make this world a better place.