In our lives we all have things that make us feel good about ourselves, and these things can be anything from being told you are pretty to personal accomplishments. As a transgender woman, there are a wide range of things that help me feel better about myself. These experiences have helped me grow as a woman, and I would like to share them with everyone in hope that they help others along the way.
As I first started my transition, obviously I was referred to as he/him about ninety-five percent of the time, and one hundred percent at work. Now I know that this is a sickening number, but lets be honest, it is to be expected. The pronouns were used because I was still working at the same job, and no hormonal changes have become obvious yet. So how do you deal with this? Well, you do your best to ignore it and keep your eyes on the path of your journey in becoming yourself. Luckily for me I was able to get away from that job and move on to a different venue. Just like the first job, the next one was construction as well. This time I went in from the beginning, and explained my situation in terms of “this is who I am, and if we can not agree, then we can not work together”. Believe it or not, this actually worked, and I worked for the company for a little over two years. Towards the end of my time there, I realized that I wanted something more meaningful, so I decided to go back to school and join the medical field.
Going back to school was one of the best decisions that I have ever made. Also, going back to school was the first event for me that did not involve me having to explain “transgender”. On the first day of school, I had much anxiety about being called out, but I was not called out. Everyone saw a woman, and treated me as such for the entire semester. Even had one professor that always referred to me as “Ms.”. It was an amazing feeling to hear someone say that all the time. Also, I ended the semester with very good grades. So with that said, I am headed into the next semester with unbelievable confidence.
After starting school, I soon needed to find a job that was in the medical field, even if it had nothing to do with psychiatry. So after many applications, I finally found a job in medical. When getting ready to start this job, obviously I needed to go through interview processes and medical screenings. At no time during this process was I ever referred to as a he or transgender, and that was another amazing feeling. So far after starting my job, nobody has misgendered me, or treated me badly, and I am loving this job.
One of the biggest reasons that I have got to this point, is that I have been patient, and allowed that hormones to do the work. There was even an incident that was quite funny to me. This incident involved a person trying to explain to me what transgender is. Yes you read right, this person was trying to explain to me that someone else was transgender, and then proceeded to tell me what it meant. Obviously I did not out myself, but it made me feel amazing to know that this person could not tell that I transitioned.
What I hope that my fellow transgender reader take away from this, is to be patient with yourself. The life that you are wanting will come in time, so do not give up on yourself. Things may seem hard and hopeless, but remember that your body has to go through changes. Also, remember that you all are not alone in your transition, because we are in this together.